As I began to integrate the feminine principles in my day to day life, I began to question how I can channel my negative feelings (or my shadow side) to help become a better person – an awakened woman!
Jealousy stood out for me! And to be honest I am not surprised – the media has done a great job in creating an illusion of separation among women by seeding the emotion of jealousy. Women are pushed to be jealous of each other’s beauty, success, men and money! Jealousy is one of the very characteristic that women are considered to have done PhD in without ever failing.
But hey, there is good news – Jealousy is good for us.
Spirituality teaches us that no feeling or emotion is right or wrong. Our feelings and emotions have been given to us to bring our attention to our soul’s desires. They act as our soul’s indicators to guide us. So, it is important that we begin to understand the real message behind our feelings and emotions.
Jealousy is a projection of negative feelings derived from the recognition of our deepest desires coupled with belief (probably a limiting belief) that we cannot have them.
You see, it’s not about the person you are feeling jealous about – it’s about you!
I always felt jealous with women who were very confident and had a healthy body. My feeling of jealousy had nothing to do with these women. I was upset because somewhere deep inside of my unconscious feelings I believed that I could not be what they were.
Of course I can! I recognized that it was my ego’s sabotaging strategy! So I decided to flip my inner critic to my inner protector to find the opportunity in this feeling of jealousy – ‘What is in it for me? What is it trying to teach me?’
My revelation was profound. I realised that my jealous feelings were a call from my soul to focus on what I desire and to start taking steps towards it.
So the next time you find yourself feeling jealous about someone or something, don’t sulk! Don’t let the negative feeling take over your mind’s peace. Instead –
- Look at what is it about them that you want in your life.
- Examine whether it’s really your heart’s desire or something you were conditioned to want by the people around you.
- If it’s your genuine desire, put a plan together on how you can take small steps to get closer to it.
- Lastly, believe! The world is wide open to those who believe in themselves – anything is possible for you! Believe in your desire!
Your jealous emotions are your desires calling for your attention!