Feeling the Butterflies After a Heartbreak

So you’ve just been though a breakup and have experienced all the emotions you could possibly imagine, some of which you didn’t even know existed. No matter what people say, moving on after a break up is hard.

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As they say, the show must go on. There’s no point sitting at home watching 10 things I hate about you on repeat and eating ice cream out of the tub forever. (Ok, a bit of an exaggeration but you get the picture.) It’s time to ditch the pyjamas and brush your hair because you’ve got to get back to living a your normal life, and for some people this means getting back into the dating game.

Dating someone straight after a breakup is usually considered a high danger zone due to the rebound factor. Many people fall into the trap of dating straight away in an effort to replace what they’ve just lost.

Although you might be eager for your life to return to some form of normality, there’s nothing to be ashamed of about taking your time and not rushing into a new relationship. In fact, doing so might even allow you to meet more people and connect on different levels then you would usually if you were looking for someone to date.

But when the time comes and you feel ready to put yourself out there, things may seem a little different than before. It can feel like the dating game has changed and you’re in over your head.

If this happens you don’t need to worry, this feeling is completely normal and something that occurs to most people.

Dating someone new after a breakup doesn’t have to be an overwhelming experience, here are four of the best things about finding someone new after heartbreak.

  1. You get someone new to tell all your favourite stories to.

You can get to know one another by discussing basic things about each others lives. When you’ve been in a relationship for a while these things become basic facts and boring to talk about. When you’ve met someone new, every piece of new information is exciting and a conversation starter.

  1. You know you’re strong enough to deal with anything

So you’ve already been through the breakup and you managed to pull through ok. Sure there were a couple of bumps along the way but you managed to make it. Knowing that you can make it though that heartbreak means you’re more likely to relax and enjoy your new relationship. No one likes being hurt but knowing you’re strong enough to get through it is like your hidden superpower.

  1. You know what you like and what you don’t.

You’ve had experience meaning you know what you like and what you don’t. If they do something that doesn’t sit right with you then you’ll be the first to let them know. You’ll also be less reluctant to express your opinion this time around because you know that compromise is key and it’s got to be give and take to work.

  1. You get to make new memories

Say thanks for the memories and then push them aside because you now get the chance to create some new ones with someone different. This can be good because you can replace all the bad ones with new fun ones by trying and experiencing new things and places. Sometimes it takes a change to push you to do the things you’ve always wanted to but never have.

So, although heartbreak is something tough to get through, try thinking of it through positive eyes.

Eventually the heartbreak pain will end and everything that has happened will be for the better, you’ve gained so much from the experience and are much stronger for it. Who knows, you might even meet someone new that makes you feel butterflies all over again.